I was going to put this in my last blog post but it would have been way too long, so I scheduled it and split it over two days.

Someone asked me this week what kind of rules I had when I had Disciplinary and Mentoring relationships. I found them on a page I did in this blog from 2019, which was the last time they were reviewed. I have only edited it to remove names or relationship statuses:

Emma’s Rules

Note: Daily journal diary of behavior to be maintained by Emma for review.

• Bedtime: 9.00 pm on a school/work night, 10.30 pm other days.
• Sleep: 9 hours school/work night, 8 hours all other days.
• No lying or disobedience will be tolerated. If Emma is dishonest or hides information she will be punished.
• No bad language – every swear word earns a spanking. Emma will speak well as she was taught, and not use poor English, slang, or glottel stop. She will be rewarded for improvements and discipline for falling back into bad speaking habits by being lazy.
• Internet leisure hours (not work related): 45 minutes per day. Net Nanny or other child monitoring software to be installed and checked regularly.
• No forgetting to eat, eat at regular intervals to prevent blood sugar dropping.
• Caffeine Intake – 1 coffee a day.
• Alcohol – I glass of wine. After this when out Emma will have soft drinks unless it’s a special occasion or she is supervised or we have discussed that beforehand.
• Weight – Target to be agreed.
• Fitness – 60 minute workout twice a week and 2-3 mile walk/run at least once a week. Emma should maintain a good posture and not slouch or be lazy.
• Pocket Money Allowance £100 per month – Do not overdraw..
• Timekeeping: Always on time for all appointments, no lateness at all. Must plan ahead and not rush, so make sure route is planned.
• Behaviour when in public – Emma will not be rude or cheeky to members of the public at any time even if she thinks it is just a joke. If it seems disrespectful or hurtful to anyone, she will be punished.
• Online Internet behavior – To be discussed. Includes Emma’s Blog, comments to others, chat rooms, Messenger chat etc. Emma will not be cheeky, bratty or rude to anyone online, the same rules as in public apply.
• Chat – Emma will not go online into chat after bedtime. She will not use her mobile phone to go online after bedtime at all. She will put her phone on mute and make sure it is charged for the next day’s use.
• Fetlife friends – Emma will not accept any new friends unless she knows them personally, or they are friends of one of her friends and a reference can be given.
• Play with other Doms/Dommes/Events – If anyone asks to play with Emma, she has to check first for permission to attend. However, Emma may occasionally be sent to report to a proxy spanker for discipline with no arguing.
• Dress Code – General dress rules to be agreed.
• Organizational Behavior – Emma will keep her diary well organized, up to date and clear.
• Safety and Security – Emma will not put herself or others in danger. This includes behaviour whilst out and about and when meeting ‘scene’ or other people socially. It also includes how much information she shares with others and protecting herself, making sure she tells where she is at all times.
• Emma will accept decisions on her discipline and conform as she is instructed. She will not answer back, be cheeky or petulant or sullen and sulky, either during or after discipline. No hands back, or jumping up during any kind of spanking, or bending down punishment.
• Maintenance and pre-emptive spankings can be given by at any time seen fit to remind Emma of her place as a well behaved young lady.

from Emma’s Rules page last updated 2019

I had some or most of these rules in different Disciplinary relationships for over 10 years continually, so they were part of my normal routine. I also had a punishment book, which I still have, and had to keep a written journal or sometimes online. There were also other forms that were filled in as a record.

Since then, I got ill and then Covid was here for two years. After that, I went back to being a spanking model as it still gave me some physical funishment stuff and play where I could test people out (and still do tee hee!) and I can catch up with friends I’ve missed.

Now without any rules and all the daily things I was brought up with for years there is still a huge gap, so that’s why I find it hard to cope as a teenager type, and have a fight with myself over what’s best for me to do. I am rubbish at sticking to rules by myself, so that doesn’t help me get much done or behave as I used to so I can stay healthy and happy. But its ok, cos choosing the wrong person to help me is worse than trudging through on my own.

So, I hope this explains to the curious and new. This is not my game, it’s real life to me. I’m sure I’ll be asked many times how I feel about discipline, and will have to roll my eyes and try to be a good girl off camera!